Monthly Archive for December, 2008

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VOD: How hotdogs are made

I knew I should trust my gut that hot dogs are gross.  If you’re a hot dog connoisseur, sometimes you’re better just not knowing.  Nothing to see here.

Thanks Buzzfeed!

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QOD: B.F. Skinner on learning

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“Education is what survives when what has been learned has been forgotten.”

“We shouldn’t teach great books; we should teach a love of reading.”

B. F. Skinner, 1904-1990, psychologist

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QOD: Bessie Stanley on success

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Success

To laugh often and much;
To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;
To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;
To appreciate beauty, to find the best in others;
To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition;
To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.
This is to have succeeded.

Bessie Stanley

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Friday Fun: What Book Are You?

I’d be embarassed, except that people buy me books like I Always Look Up the Word Egregious and The Highly Selective Dictionary for the Extraordinarily Literate.  While I’ll never be a party animal, I’ll always be the first person you’ll call when you’re stumped.

Your turn.  What book are you?


You’re The Dictionary!

by Merriam-Webster

You’re one of those know-it-all types, with an amazing amount of
knowledge at your command. People really enjoy spending time with you in very short
spurts, but hanging out with you for a long time tends to bore them. When folks
really need an authority to refer to, however, you’re the one they seek. You’re an
exceptional speller and very well organized.


Take the Book Quiz

at the Blue Pyramid.

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McKinsey's Model Centered Leadership for Women

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In the latest edition of McKinsey & Company’s  quarterly journal, several consultants expound upon the facets of “model centered leadership,” a type of they’ve identified through extensive interviewing of successful business leaders (primarily women) around the world, from a variety of industries.

it’s about having a well of physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual strength that drives personal achievement and, in turn, inspires others to follow.

There are five key elements according to their research that can help women shift from mere worker to office leader.  As you read, consider how each factors into your work persona and the office politics you engage in.

Meaning

Haven’t we all be told that we should follow our passions; the money will follow?  When you’re getting out of bed 5+ days a week to work on projects that light a fire under you, you’re more attentive and dedicated.

Additionally, tapping into your strengths should allow you to enjoy your time at the office.

People seeking to define what is meaningful can start, as one interviewee put it, by “being honest with yourself about what you’re good at and what you enjoy doing.” Building these signature strengths into everyday activities at work makes you happier, in part by making these activities more meaningful.

Managing Energy

Ever get totally lost in an assignment and before you know it, the day is over? Is that more the norm than a rarity? If so, consider yourself lucky.  Employees that get caught in “flow” are “more productive and derived greater satisfaction from their work than those who did not.”   They’re just as jazzed at the end of the day as when they started.

If you aren’t so lucky as to enjoy “flow,” you still need to find time for a mental and spiritual regroup when you start fading during the work day.  Meditate, stretch, take a walk around the block, anything to take your mind off work for a brief respite.

In fact, you might even talk your employer into providing a power nap space for you and your fellow workers as midday naps are increasingly linked to improved brain function when it came to recall and rote activity, as well as lower risk of heart attack.

Positive Framing

Positive psychology is all the rage.  Martin’s Seligman, from the University of Pennsylvania invites people to take a variety of online quizzes determining your positive quotient.   A new Harvard/UC San Diego study finds that happiness rubs off on the people around you, so just surrounding yourself with a happy  network of people should boost that sentiment within.  Older studies find happy people live longer.

In a similar vein, McKinsey’s researcher found positive framing makes for more proactive leaders who aren’t overwhelmed by failure, but who instead look for the opportunity to turn a situation around.  Positive framing “accepts the facts of adversity and counters them with action.”

If a meeting goes badly, for example, you should limit your thoughts about it to its temporary and specific impact and keep them impersonal. It helps to talk with trusted colleagues about the reasons for the poor meeting and ways to do better next time. These discussions should take place quickly enough for you to make a specific plan and act on it. You should also undertake some activity that will restore both your energy and your faith in yourself

Connecting

Over and over we hear it’s not what you know, it’s who you know.  And to make it as a mover and shaker one needs to cast a pretty wide net.  Past research shows that

People with strong networks and good mentors enjoy more promotions, higher pay, and greater career satisfaction.

Does the type of networking matter?  Evidence is increasingly showing that men and women network differently.

men tend to build broader, shallower networks than women do and that the networks of men give them a wider range of resources for gaining knowledge and professional opportunities.

A women’s focus on building strong relationships isn’t necessarily an asset if you have a great action plan, but don’t have a diverse enough base of contacts to put that plan into play.   So when scheduling those first networking events of 2009, try to go to a few outside your comfort zone and meet people in a different industry. You never know when those casual acquaintances could come in handy.

Interestingly, McKinsey researchers found that unlike men, women don’t innately embrace the concept of “reciprocity”.   When someone reaches out to help you, it’s standard to return the favor.  In fact, making the assist first is more apt to get you the aid you want or need.

I refer back to my own Golden Rule of Networking: when making new connections, I’m always thinking about what I can do for the people I meet; frequently it means making introductions to other people I know.  The same is true when trying to get ahead in the work place.  How can you make a positive impression that serves your supervisor or  senior management.

Though I can’t find the post at the moment,  a blogger recently shared his uses of google alerts to impress a senior level executive in his company.  He subscribed to a number of feeds relevant to the competition and the market place, pulling out the key news pieces each week.  He sent a weekly news round up to that senior executive.  The blogger took action that is useful to the senior level executive who now thinks of Joe Blogger at least once a week when that news round up dings in his in box.

Given the Old Boys’ Network, men are well aware of  the notion that if you scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours.  Ladies, we need to own that very same philosophy.

These connections and cross-promotional efforts are what drive networking organizations like Ladies Who Launch, Downtown Women’s Club, Step Up Women’s Network and Success in the City..  Organizations and networking groups like these exist in major cities across the US.  Take some time to google the opportunities in your city.

Engaging

Your next promotion isn’t going to come to you, you need to create the environment to make it happen.  Speak up and  contribute at staff meetings. Document your successes and the company cost savings you’re responsible for.  If you won’t champion yourself, who will?

Women need to be willing to take risks and “‘create their own luck‘” to get noticed. Some of us are willing to take the leap based on our gut, others take more calculated shots, but we need to engage with colleagues and supervisors to take it to the next level.

Final Thoughts

After reading through the five characteristics of model centered leadership, it was pretty obvious to me that connecting comes naturally to me (as evidenced by the lengthy pontification on that subject above.)

On the other hand, I hate taking risks unless I’m pretty sure I’m right.  I typically would rather stay silent than risk being wrong; it’s a behavior that’s made me a stellar observer.   However, I’m going to make a more conscious effort to be daring in my decision making.

Did any of the above traits resonate with you? Which seem the most foreign?

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Twenty Set: How to Become a Leader if You're a Woman

Twenty Set’s Monica O’Brien interviewed several Gen-Y women by e-mail as part of her postmortem of the 2008 election.  She just posted a piece on the role female candidates and First Lady-to-be Obama played and the ramifications of their presence on the very public political stage for future elections.

You can find my thoughts on why Hillary lost and what Michelle Obama represents to professional women over at Twenty Set.

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Making the most of holiday gifting

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It’s obvious retailers are struggling this year, and the steep discounts offered on Black Friday are merely the tip of the iceberg this holiday season.  Come December 26th, retailers are practically going to give away their product in an effort to clear the shelves for spring goods.

So if you’re sticking with consumerism this holiday season, I say enjoy the religious traditions on schedule and then swap gifts come New Year’s Day.

A friend of mine from grad school introduced me this gift giving cost saver.  She swaps gifts with her friends and family AFTER the holidays are over. And her logic makes sense.

Whatever your gift giving budget, you get more for your money on December 26th.   You can opt to spend less for the same quality items you would have bought at full price.  Or you can opt to spend the same on much higher quality items.

For instance, in past years my favorite department store Lord & Taylor cut prices on their cashmere sweaters in half the day after Christmas.  With the additional savings you get with their coupons, you typically wind up paying about $60 for a $140 sweater.

With the retail sector in an especially difficult situation this holiday season, a $148 cashmere sweater is already marked down to $65.99.  You’ll probably be getting 2 sweaters for that price on December 26th.

That $65.99 will either cover both Grandma AND Aunt Betsy or you’ll be throwing in a scarf and gloves with Grandma’s New Year’s Day gift.

If you are partaking in gift giving traditions this season, make sure you make the most of the dollars you choose to spend.

What are your frugal gift giving tips? Share them here, or blog about them and enter to win a variety of prizes over at Broke Grad Student.

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QOD: Gloria Steinem on PMS

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If women are supposed to be less rational and more emotional at the beginning of our menstrual cycle when the female hormone is at its lowest level, then why isn’t it logical to say that, in those few days, women behave the most like the way men behave all month long?

– Gloria Steinem

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Talking to your inner child

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Gloria Steinem spoke on a moderated panel at the California Governor’s conference this fall. At one point, moderator Farai Chideya asked feminist Steinem what her little 9 year-old girl self would say to the other panelist’s 9-year-old girl self.

In the ensuing discussion, Steinem suggested that “who you are at 9 or 10 is who we are at 60.” She noted that young kids at nine or ten have absolute clarity about their passions. They’re climbing trees and exploring the world and haven’t yet added the word impossible to their vocabularies. Tweens are “full of wonder.”

Given I’m in a major career transition, and have spent more than a year struggling with the notion of what I should do versus what my passions could fuel, Steinem’s comments gave me pause.

My inner child

As I hit middle school, I became thoroughly obsessed with social activism, in particular, saving the planet. I read about recycling and ocean pollutions and worried endlessly about the plight of sea turtles eating plastic bags, which is probably why the Santa Monica Plastic Bag Monster stunt tickled me recently.

While communities were just beginning to offer curbside recycling programs, our family always had the most recycling bins out in our neighborhood. In fact, my mom’s best friend used to tease her about the extent of our recycling: stacks of newspapers; bundles of junk mail and magazines; glass, aluminum and tin bottles, jars and cans.   Though I realized that one family recycling wasn’t putting a dent in the landfill problem, I dreamt of a day when everyone recycled as much of their garbage as possible.

In the 5th grade, I also began to realize that not everyone was equal, which lit my interest in social justice, as well as equitable and utilitarian treatment of all people.  I wanted to be unwaveringly fair in my actions, not just self-serving.  I sought to do what was right for everyone, even if it meant a temporary dip in my own life.  My experience staying silent while another kid was tease mercilessly for being different definitely contributed to that philosophy.

Full Stop

But I hit the metaphorical brick wall in high school.

At fifteen, I helped lead the charge against a 6-community referendum to break up a school district.  Adults rallied support for break up of the district using socioeconomic snobbery and even mock seances — yes, seriously.   After forming a student group, we attended public meetings and canvassed the neighborhood, though derided by local school administrators and parents on the other side.   The teenagers fighting the referendum spent hours in the library researching the economic and social costs of breaking up the district; in reality, more regionalization made fiscal sense than less.

And we fought the good fight.  I remember the day one classmate approached me and told me that she could never do what I was doing, but she was 100% behind me.  Someone needed to take a stand, it just wasn’t going to be her.

But we lost.  And the district was dissolved.  Ironically, the prognostications of teens came to be.  Over the next five years schools taxes shot up, the performance of the athletic teams (with slimmer pickings) diminished, and the number of courses offerings declined.  While we were satisfied to be right, we wished we had been wrong.

A few tiny details slammed the breaks on activism for me.  Afterwards, a story trickled down through the ranks.  A lot of favors were owed all the way up to the governor’s office. One way or another this district was being dismantled, even though it completely contradicted the Governor’s very public support of regionalization to streamline costs throughout the state.    When people questioned the legality of using a referendum to dissolve the district, all copies of the district charter mysteriously vanished.

Powerful forces beyond our control worked hard to ensure the appropriate “democratic” outcome. The people were squelched.  The little guy was silenced.  The power brokers made a decision, and the die were set.  And at 15 and 16, I just wasn’t ready to maneuver the shady back room dealings of politics. Though I fight fair, I hadn’t yet accepted that most at that level are just playing to win. It’s personal, not community- focused.

Waking up

This year,  I  found my spark again.  Watching Obama’s team out campaign the GOP made me realize that I am no less capable of gaming the system in the name of the greater good. Sometimes you have to play by the other team’s rules just to get in the game, but you don’t have to dump your own values in the process.

Excessive volunteerism allowed me to develop the skill sets I need to reconnect with activism.  I’ve revisited the development and ongoing review of the strategy that can take me from A to B.  As much as I hate public speaking, I’m more comfortable rallying the troops and inspiring people to act than anytime in recent memory.  And I’m well-versed in the nitty gritty of data management and manipulation.

At the moment, my search is on for the right opportunity to splice with my aptitude, because I’m pretty sure that who I was at ten is who I’ll be at thirty.   What feels like a quarterlife quagmire seems to be me coming full circle.

But enough about me; take your own trip down memory lane.  What motivated your ten-year old self to act?  Who did you want to be when you grew up? Are you there yet?

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