Monthly Archive for April, 2011

Finding community in books

a close reading of the textphoto © 2009 kevin rawlings | more info (via: Wylio)Growing up socially-challenged, books were my best friends. Every spare moment in my day I filled with reading material.

I worked my way alphabetically through the children’s section of my hometown library, checking out stacks of picture books, then early readers before careful selections from spiral racks of tween books. (I eventually adventured into the fiction section to find discover Margaret Atwood and DH Lawrence.)

Yes, I started with Muppet Babies, Fraggle Rock and Amelia Bedelia, before graduating to pictureless Nancy Drew and the Hardy Boys, which gave way to Sweet Valley High. Long before Harry Potter and the Twilight series launched tween crazy for all things that go bump in the night, I devoured L. J. Smith’s witchy high school trilogy The Secret Circle; the dog-eared copies are still a treasured part of my book collection.

I’ve never had much interest in dissecting literature for important themes or reflections on the culture of the day. It would damage my relationship with the characters. Though I’d gladly tear apart a TV series to get at hidden meaning — Buffy the Vampire Slayer‘s metaphorical examination of adolescence, anyone? — to do so with well drawn characters in books seems too cynical. I hate to look at the people between the pages as careful constructs.

After all, I solved mysteries with Nancy Drew and her cohorts. Imagined conversations with fictitious personalities helped me work through pubescent angst.  And characters living out scenarios and environs otherwise outside my scope of experience  pushed my mind beyond upper middle class New Jersey suburbia.

A soon-to-be-published study in Psychological Science found readers are drawn into the fictional communities of the books they read. Psychologists focused on the paranormal sub-genre using publishing sensations Harry Potter and Twilight. Even in the case of otherwordly, unrealistic plotlines, subjects self-identified with aspects of the characters lives.

It may help explain a University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine study reporting that adolescents with heavy reading habits are “one-tenth as likely to be depressed” as teens reading the least. Even when you feel alone in the world, you know you have  friend in your favorite characters and a tribe in other fans.

Who were your fictional friends growing up?

 

On the American obsession with stuff

Shop until you dropphoto © 2004 Rob Holland | more info (via: Wylio)In Switch!, the Heath brothers open with a study examining the impact of concession stand product sizes with the volume of snack consumption at movie theaters by individual research subjects. The larger the popcorn containers the more people ate.

That subconscious response is why nutritionists often recommend dieters serve their meals on smaller plates.  Even if you clear a salad-sized plate of food, you’re still coming in under the calorie count of a full dinner place – a mind game that helps keep you on track with weight loss goals.

And that same psychology appears to apply with overall consumption too.  This weekend the WSJ reported on Commerce Department data indicating that 11.2 percent of American spending in 2011 is for non-essential purchases (exclusive of requisite items like food, housing and medicine).  Despite a recession and mass unemployment, people are still shopping for wants beyond their needs; in 1959 such goods only accounted for four percent of spending.

This growth in non essential spending seems to parallel with the ever expanding square footage requirements of American home owners.  The average home in 1950 was just 983 square feet compared with 2349 square feet for new homes in 2004.

Purchasing a home typically means moving into a large space. Thus, owners grow into a  new space buying items to furnish extra rooms and to cover empty walls and to fill the nooks and crannies that give a home character. The advertising industry — having created the Pavlovian need to keep up with the Joneses — and a consumer technology sector — with routine product enhancements every 18 months or so a la Moore’s Law, combined with environmentally tone-deaf planned obsolescence — ensure a steady drum beat of purchasing whenever dollars can be spared.

Buying habits encourage an eventual move into a larger home when the perfectly sunny abode at the end of a quiet cul-de-sac no longer seems quite as spacious. With packing comes the tossing of dated furniture and appliances that can be upgraded to shiny, new replacements. Disposing of forgotten tchotchkes or ill-fitting clothing creates even more opportunity to spend.

And it creates a kind of geographic inertia that tugs on an economy in crisis.  Ever so slowly, the cost of relocating for more lucrative — or any — opportunities creeps toward burdensome and cost prohibitive. People get tied to more than the roots in their community; they get bogged down by an obesity of stuff.

QOD | Writers are lovers

I love to read ........photo © 2011 Nina Matthews | more info (via: Wylio)

 

A quote for consideration this morning.  From Natalie Goldberg in Writing Down the Bones: Freeing the Writer Within:

Writers are great lovers. They fall in love with other writers.  That’s how they learn to write. They take on a writer, read everything by him or her, read it over again until they understand how the writer moves, pauses, and sees. That’s what being a lover is: stepping out of yourself, stepping into someone else’s skin.  Your ability to love another’s writing means those capabilities are awakened in you. It will only make you bigger; it won’t make you a copy cat. The parts of another’s writing that are natural to you will become you, and you will use some of those moves when you write. But not artificially. Great lovers realize that they are what they are in love with.

I’ve been told repeatedly that what you see in other people is a reflection of yourself — you can’t see what you don’t hold within and know, at least, subconsciously.

Danielle Laporte’s Manifesto of Encouragement

75/365 Hugs are Healingphoto © 2010 Ganesha Balunsat | more info (via: Wylio)Another blog I’ve been digging lately is written by business firestarter Danielle Laporte.   I just love her writing style.

She posted an awesome manifesto to her site that is worth a read in full.

Here’s an excerpt:

right now:

Someone who is craving to be partnered, to be acknowledged, to ARRIVE, will get precisely what they want — and even more. And because that gift will be so fantastical in it’s reach and sweetness, it will quite magically alter their memory of angsty longing and render it all “So worth the wait.

Someone has recently cracked open their joyous, genuine nature because they did the hard work of hauling years of oppression off of their psyche — this luminous juju is floating in the ether, and is accessible to you.

Someone just this second wished for world peace, in earnest.

Someone is fighting the fight so that you don’t have to.

What corporate culture lights you up?

I recently stumbled across the website of business coach Marie Forleo, and I’ve been hooked on her vlog and enewsletter ever since.  Each week she answers a reader question in the form of a video post, providing coaching tips that can be applied to other complimentary situations.

Two weeks ago she addressed a consultant who was experiencing serious burnout working with clients that doubled as energy vampires.

Forleo advised the reader to develop a prospective client checklist of traits and conditions that must be present for a client to have the good fortune to work with that consultant.  These items will ensure the consultant only works with clients that serve as energizers rather than drainers.

Surely that same approach can be used to focus a job hunt.  Regardless of the job description, the values and culture of an employer impact, for better or worse, the types of people drawn to a company.

That video got me thinking about the cultural preferences I need to focus on as my own job hunt continues. In no particular order, musts in my next work place.

  1. People get creative to find the best workable solution.  There are plenty of opportunities to think in the abstract and generate unusual solutions to problems.
  2. No resting on your laurels. The company is always ready to try new tools and processes to ensure the status quo is the best approach, not just an engrained habit.
  3. Workers are empowered to get the job done. The company trusts that its HR methodology brings in the best people to meet the strategic objectives.  Thus, micromanaging and onerous levels of approval aren’t necessary.
  4. You’re only as good as your word, so integrity is a must.  Misrepresentations or fabrications to cover the company’s vulnerabilities or to protect an individual’s opportunity to hog the glory aren’t acceptable.
  5. Cookie cutters need not apply. Personality should be celebrated, not merely tolerated. Employees are viewed as vibrant individuals, not cogs in a wheel.
  6. Employees have lives outside the office, so flexible schedules and telecommuting aren’t luxuries only afforded parents.
  7. Management invests in professional development because they want to grow leaders and keep employees challenged.   From conferences to mentorship programs to tuition contributions, employees are exposed to new ideas and different perspectives.
  8. Healthy debate is encouraged.  “Because I said so” isn’t a valid reason for doing something. Employees understand the whys and how their work fits into the overall strategic plan.
  9. Failure means you’re takings risks and doing something new.  And staff can learn just as much from a plan gone off the rails as from trying to replicate successes.

What makes or breaks a work environment for you?

 

Steve Farber on Leadership that is Greater Than Yourself

Greater Than Onephoto © 2009 Brent Linden | more info (via: Wylio)To Steve Farber, author of Greater Than Yourself, the best leaders set themselves apart by nurturing the leadership potential in  their employees because work place success is not a zero sum game.  Empowering and building up your team does not necessarily short you. Last Tuesday, Farber shared insights from his research into great workplace culture and leadership on a G5 Leadership webinar.

Striving to maximize the potential of your peers and reports also helps you put the golden rule — do unto others as you’ have done unto you — in play. People are programmed to help those around them when culture permits.  Per a survey on sharing, the primary reason to do so is “to help that person because he or she would benefit from it”.

With those sentiments in mind, Farber offered 3 basic steps to cultivate your own and staff leadership potential.

1) Expand yourself.

Complete annual or semi-annual personal inventories to ensure you are developing and strengthening the value and skills you bring to a company, client or reports.   That self-review should include everything from innate and learned skills to the belief and value systems that shape you, as well as life altering experiences that have altered your perspective.

From conferences to books to mentoring, there are countless ways to build up your talents, even if you’re a seasoned pro.   That inventory should lengthen over time.

2) Give of yourself fully with no strings attached.

Share the resources at your disposal with no expectation of tit for tat.  It increases the odds people will take the opportunity to apply what’s available or build on it to do something amazing.  You can be the leader that made it possible or a valuable team player in this scenario.

Incidentally, a friend often reminds me to avoid any expectation of reciprocity because you never know how the energy you put out into the world will return to you.  Helping a  co-worker today could shift energy that allows you to connect with the person who will sponsor your job jump to better and bigger things tomorrow.

3) Replicate yourself.

The only way this process can continue is if all participants choose to pay it forward.  While you can seed growth and optimal performance in a handful of people on your own, the ripple effect as the people you impact repeat the process on others around you can transform a workplace culture or change the world.

I’m of the opinion that this type of mentoring isn’t limited to the upper echelons of management.  At every tier of the corporate ladder you can spark the magic in someone.

For information on upcoming G5 webinars, check out their event calendar.  They offer several 90-minute, online classes each month taught by best-selling business authors who’ve set their sights on enhancing your soft skills.  For $129 per year, you can have access to their complete roster of trainings plus workbooks, slide decks and recordings for review at a later date.

 

VOD | Squealing penguin

Cookie the Penguin calls the Cincinnati Zoo home. The penguin keepers released a behind the scenes video of their Zoo mascot.  The last 20 seconds is priceless.  Apparently Cookie likes getting his belly rubbed, and he’s very vocal about it.  I’m not sure if that’s squealing or laughter, but it sounds like he’s having a good time.

Long on hyperbole, short on facts

Watching Staticphoto © 2007 Jason Rogers | more info (via: Wylio)Canada’s Radiocommunication Act explicitly prohibits “knowingly [making] a false or misleading statement, either orally or in writing.” Thus the hyperbolic and, at times, vitriolic  media heard on American talk radio and Fox News is unusual there.  And Canadians hope to keep it that way despite political pressure to change the regulations.

In January, the Canadian Radio-Television and Telecommunications Commission announced an open comment period on a proposed modification limiting that clause  to “cases in which broadcasters knew the information was false or misleading and that reporting it was likely to endanger the lives, health or safety of the public.

Speaking on behalf of journalists’ union Communication, Energy and Paperworkers Union, Peter Murdoch commented, “Where is the motivation for change that would lower the standards of truth and fairness in broadcast journalism?”  And Canadian consumers overwhelmingly agreed, expressing concern about ensuring the veracity of reporting by media outlets.

After uproar, the Commission dropped plans to move forward with the revision this February.

The timing of the attempt to open the door to more manipulative reporting did not go unnoticed by media savvy Canadians.  Last year Quebecor Media announced plans to launch Fox-inspired news network Sun TV News.  Friendly government-ties to the network were questioned.

It seems that Canadians have learned a thing or two from watching US media broadcasts.

Last December, the University of Maryland release a study that found Fox News watchers ill-informed about the major issues polled on in November, more so than any other news outlet’s viewers. Give  the network’s reputation for hyperbolic coverage of policy issues, it’s no wonder that reporting that is high on emotion is short on information.   In fact, regardless of the political leanings of those polled, the more  Fox News hours clocked the more misinformation they retained.

It’s particularly disturbing because nearly half of Americans trust Fox News, while just 39% trust CNN, the next most trusted network. That Fair and Balanced branding has served them well.

Though the first amendment right to free speech precludes regulations similar to the Canadian RadioCommunication Act in the US, surely some type of truth-telling accreditation should be possible.  If food can meet certain standards so as to be declared USDA Organic, why couldn’t chyrons include labeling from  news to edutainment to opinion programming?

With the Citizens United case opening elections to unlimited corporate spending on political advertising, it’s more important than ever that Americans know where they can turn to for the actual facts.    In the University of Maryland study

9 in 10 voters said that in the 2010 election they encountered information they believed was misleading or false, with 56% saying this occurred frequently. Fifty-four percent said that it had been more frequent than usual.

It shouldn’t be challenging to ferret out the truth when the direction of your democracy can hang in the balance.  And yet there’s little assurance that we’re consuming fully veracious  content — between the agendas of media outlets and our individual viewer biases — even when we’re looking for it.

 

Walking a mile in someone else’s shoes

Old shoesphoto © 2010 William Lawrence | more info (via: Wylio)Don’t judge until you’ve walked a mile in her shoes.  It’s more than a handy one-liner according to University of Georgia researchers. In an upcoming Journal of Poverty article, academics Sharon Y. Nichols and Robb Nielson detail a social experiment that placed undergraduates in a lab environment simulation of a variety of hardship conditions.

As detailed in a press release on the study:

During the simulation, students in Nickols’ course on managing family resources are clustered into various family groups—two parents and two children; an older woman living alone; a single mother with two children; and a cohabiting couple, for example. Faculty members and other volunteers play the roles of community members, such as the town banker, pawn shop owner and a social services employee. During the course of the simulation, the participants must accomplish a variety of tasks, including buying groceries, paying their bills and caring for both toddlers and aging parents while subsisting on low wages and other issues, such as being unable to speak English. During the course of each 15-minute “month,” new situations are randomly interjected. In some cases, these are helpful events, such as an unemployed parent receiving a job. In other cases, the events add to the families’ difficulties, such as a family without health insurance facing illness.

The vast majority of participants (65 of 75) reported greater empathy for those living in poverty — acknowledging the difficulty in staying positive and hopeful, the challenge in finding and accessing community and government resources, and the sheer lack of time to get it all done. One respondent commented, “I think that many people would feel like they were on a treadmill, not really getting anywhere.”

What strikes me most about this research is the difficulty we all have in stepping outside our own privileges and situations to consider the lives of those around us.  In Stumbling on Happiness, Daniel Gilbert details how the human brain fills the gaps to create a complete picture much like a round of Mad Libs.

When your brain is at liberty to interpret a stimulus in more than one way, it tends to interpret it the way it wants to, which is to say that your preferences influence your interpretations of stimuli in just the same way that context, frequency and recency do (p. 172; emphasis mine).

So it’s hard to intuit the motivations and triggers behind another person’s actions or lack thereof, since we only bring our experiences and knowledge to the table.  Thus it’s important to approach the grey areas of life with the caution that self-awareness can bring.

Over the past few weeks socially conservative Republicans have engaged in heated rhetoric meant to use abortion as a wedge issue during budget negotiations, particularly where Planned Parenthood funding is concerned.  The predominantly aging, white male politicians railing against access to pregnancy termination services repeatedly iterated the existence of alternatives to the preventative care provided by Planned Parenthood with little regard for the actual veracity of those claims. *

I wonder how much consideration was given to the constituents in their districts that relay on these services before politicization of the funding began.   Journalist Andrea Grimes decided to seek out those allegedly easily accessible alternatives. She reported on the difficulty and time commitment necessary to find basic health screenings when myriad providers don’t ever answer the phone or call back, print resources are out of date or filled with misinformation and available appointments are frequently months off despite a present need.

On the advice of a anti-abortion activist commentator on her blog, Grimes sought out other federally-funded health centers.

I am privileged to have a flexible work schedule, home phone and home internet access, so I didn’t have to take time off work to go to the public library and use a pay phone, and I didn’t have to sneak around on a conservative, religious or abusive family or partner–and started making calls. Most places I telephoned did not provide reproductive health care and instead focused on providing low-income housing, job training and addiction-recovery programs…

a clinic close-ish to my home had no receptionist and a full voicemail. Another receptionist laughed at me because I’d been given the number for the county hospital front desk and told me to call a place called Los Barrios Unidos Community Clinic. When I called Los Barrios, I got an individual’s voice mail and had to take down another number to a switchboard, after which I was transferred to another voicemail that said the women’s health care folks would get back to me in 24 hours if I left my phone number. They’ve yet to call me. Later in the morning, I finally got through to the Los Barrios clinic in Grand Prairie, which is a western suburb of Dallas. They had appointments open in May, potentially, if I could call them back the morning of April 25th. There, a pap smear would cost me as little as $30, but maybe more depending on my income.

I made my last call to a Planned Parenthood clinic in central Dallas. The receptionist there told me they could schedule me that same afternoon for a full pelvic and breast exam. It’d be about $100, but there was a sliding scale.

I managed to change someone’s mind about the relevance of Planned Parenthood in rural and other underserved areas merely by forwarding along Grimes’s blog post.  She made a compelling case for Planned Parenthood’s value by acting as if one of the five million women, men and young adults who rely on those services.

There are countless other policy issues addressing people who are otherwise marginalized or less powerful, whole needs are equally important.

And without our own day-to-day lives, understanding is sometimes better realized by setting aside our own limiting beliefs and embracing different perspectives that might not come naturally.

* I’m going to give those politicos the benefit of the doubt and assume they truly believe alternative access to care is easily accessible and that secondary philosophical beliefs about the role of women and acceptable sexual expression aren’t also at work.

Wellbeing | Having a job isn’t enough

181/365 - Life 2: The Unhappy Endingphoto © 2009 Helga Weber | more info (via: Wylio) Hate your job? Feeling underutilized and devalued at the office? Turns out the unemployed may be faring better than you.

Roughly 1-in-5 American workers is actively disengaged at the office. Gallup has concluded that these employees

tend to be significantly less productive, report being less loyal to their companies, are less satisfied with their personal lives, and are more stressed and insecure about their work than their colleagues.

And newer data is showing that the unemployed are finding more pleasure in their lives than those disenchanted with their current employer. They are more likely to say they are thriving (48% to 42%). Despite the financial hardships and present insecurity, the unemployed are less likely to say they’re struggling with their lives than those actively disengaged members of the workforce (49% to 54%).

While we keep hearing how lucky people are to have jobs in this economy, it appears a pay check may not be enough. At the end of 2010, Manpower reported that 84% of Americans would be looking for a new job this year.

Given that the 12-question Gallup survey was designed to determine how challenged and valued employees are at a given company, it seems that the intrinsic benefits of employment may be missing for the least engaged. Not only do employees want to be paid fairly (if not well) for what they do, they want to see their efforts successfully contributing to objectives that matter internally. They want work that matches their skill levels and knowledge base so that they’re adequately challenged. And they want the autonomy to decide how best to get the job done; afterall, if not trusted to do the job, an offer of employment probably shouldn’t have been extended.

So it takes a toll when one is micromanaged or finds oneself working in a dysfunctional setting that limits the little successes that add up over time. And then, voila! Work and life seem much less enjoyable.

Gallup: Daily Positive Experiences

Hopefully, you’re part of the engaged segment of the workforce.  What is your employer doing to help keep the spring in your step?   If you’re not happy in your current position, how do you keep your spirits up?