Archive for the 'Gen Y' Category

FOMO with smart phone immediacy

Smart phones pack a lot of bang for the buck.  From email and texting to apps for shopping, networking, traveling and working to the potential that mobile payments offer, a person can consolidate much of her life on a hand-held device, with just enough time left over for a round of Angry Birds. But is it starting to get to be too much?   Can we ever walk away from work and the rush of information about our connections to relax?

The Q1 iPass Global Mobile Worker Report shows the extremes that tech dependency and a lack of boundaries push workers toward. Employees tapping into work from a mobile device on a non-corporate network are logging an average of 240 more hours per year than those who don’t.  Of this group, ninety-one percent are checking their smart phones during down time, with sixty-four percent of those identified as Gen Y checking three or more time per hour!

And Gen Y is taking their technology to bed. Forty-five point three percent sleep within arm’s reach of their smartphones; another fourteen point six percent keep them steps away within the bedroom.  Fewer are getting a full night’s sleep with nearly half checking their phones in the middle of the night from time to time. And nearly half are checking their phones in the middle of the night at least sometimes, with forty-four percent checking email before rolling out of bed.

Members of Gen Y are increasingly suffering from FOMO — the fear of missing out — thanks to increasingly ubiquitous technology in our lives.  And it’s not just our work lives that trail us around the clock.

JWTIntelligence recently reported on the social aspect of this trend.  Their researchers officially define FOMO as “the uneasy and sometimes all encompassing feeling…that your peers are doing, in the know about or in possession of more or something better than you”.

The steady stream of status updates running through social media sites in a drumbeat of events and happenings in your backyard and in distant locales.  It’s no wonder that eighty percent of 18-33 year olds see people as using these communication channels for bragging rights.  Over-scheduled teens have become the same over scheduled adults planning for every minute, in an effort to keep up.

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As increasingly powerful technology crunches all aspects of our lives into smaller and smaller devices, it will become even more difficult to avoid the temptation to check-in on the weekends or your lunch hour or an evening out with friends.

What realistic boundaries can be set so that we can all tune out and just revel in the moments we should have to ourselves?

Crossroads & the Economy: You're Not Alone

The summer of 2007, I realized I’d either need to stick with a job I hated (for a plethora of reasons) for the duration of the economic roller coaster that seemed imminent OR I’d need to take a leap of faith that if I quit, I would find a position that actually aligned with my values and career goals.   A life coach that I worked with weekly convinced me of the latter because “what’s the worst that could happen?”

At that time the average job hunt took 4-6 months, and I had squirreled away 6 months of savings.   Since I planned to hit the ground running with lots of ideas as to places I’d like to work and the type of work I wanted to do, as well as scores of networking events and heavily researched job hunt strategy, the 6 month window seemed reasonable to me.   And shelling out thousands of dollars a year to work with someone on creating my best life, it seemed time to take a bigger step and a greater risk than I had up to that point.

Fast forward to March 2009, and I’m still without a full-time employer, which was NOT the plan.

I have worked my network to get my resume in the door at companies and organizations with openings that look interesting, as well as to land informationals to have a better understanding of certain fields.   In sticking with my golden rule, I’ve helped a lot of people I meet at networking events find resources and contacts they need.

I’ve lost count of the number of job applications for positions ranging from Executive Assistant to Associate Director in a variety of fields with a wide array of responsibilities or lack thereof.   I signed up with several recommended temp agencies that never called, despite my high scores on their tests, and my following their rules of engagement.  My resume has been sucked into the black hole of the crumbling retail world.  Three different “professionals” rewrote my resume.   (The person who charged me the most, helped the least.)  I  send handwritten thank-you notes to each individual I speak to in relation to a job opening, unless I’m going to be sending follow-up materials — in that case, I may email my thank you note with the requisite attachments.

Basically, I’ve conformed to the job hunting check lists written by (aspiring) career advisors and no pay dirt as of yet.

Lots of rejections, though.  In the past 18 months, I have been told that I’m overqualified; I’m underqualified; I’m simultaneously over and underqualified (yes, it can be done!); they loved me, but Candidate X holds a Roladex that is a source of envy; sorry, there’s been a hiring freeze; you’d be bored in this role and leave; damn, they pulled the funding for the position; we decided to promote internally instead; and the list goes on.

But I’m coming to believe the hardest and least planned for roads can bring the great rewards and life lessons.

I’m lucky.

My family is able to float me while I try to navigate the quarterlife quagmire; I’m cognizant of that privilege.  It’s a lifeline not readily available to many people.   Thanks to the recession twenty percent of Los Angeles county residents receive government aid of some sort, and more than one in ten Californians is unemployed.  Though it’s the worst unemployement rate in a quarter century, it’s expected to get considerably worse before it gets better.

As singleton with no mortgage or car payments pending,  I can move anywhere for the right job opportunity.  As I pointed out to an interviewer concerned about the timing of a cross-country move, my possessions are books and clothes — the former you ship, the latter fit in a suitcase, or three,  in the trunk of my car.

I’m healthy, which is much less expensive than being sick, whether you have insurance or not.

A recent study by Harvard University researchers found that the average out-of-pocket medical debt for those who filed for bankruptcy was $12,000. The study noted that 68 percent of those who filed for bankruptcy had health insurance. In addition, the study found that 50 percent of all bankruptcy filings were partly the result of medical expenses.  Every 30 seconds in the United States someone files for bankruptcy in the aftermath of a serious health problem.

Career development opportunities aren’t just for the employed.

  • Want to learn a new skill? Find a few non-profits that align with causes you care about and see what they need.  Through my volunteer work, I’ve learned about fundraising and securing donations (sales), as well as new member and donor outreach (marketing and public speaking).
  • Build your current skill set. My side job has been teaching fitness classes of some sort for the last 7 years, which comes with all sorts of continuing education requirements.  Unemployment gave me the time to earn a new certification that has not fit into my schedule for years.  Find a community college to take that HTML or PowerPoint workshop.  Head to a industry specific conference to be up-to-date and schmooze with people who might have job leads.   No money for a rainy day you can tap?
  • Just do it. I know I want to be doing at least some writing in my next job, so I blog and journal and try to keep the thoughts flowing from brain to screen or pen to paper.   (I’m also a horrible proofreader of my own work, so I’ll take all the practice I can get.) What job responsibilities do you want to have in the future?  How can you work on developing those talents while unemployed?
  • Learning doesn’t have to come with a grade. Sign up for the RSS feeds on topics of interest. Visit your local library, BookMooch or DealOz to pick up those books you’ve been meaning to read, whether work-related or for the sheer pleasure.  I read more now than I did during grad school (when a paper wasn’t due) and have developed a to-read list 600 books deep.   Why  not document your readings a la Art Garfunkel? I recently found another blog of “Words Learned Reading David Foster Wallace,” which has sadly, but understandably,  been discontinued because the blogger wants to focus on the PR-centric blog that aligns with her professional life. (If you’re a David Foster Wallace fan, she’s open to someone taking over the blog).

I’m not alone.

It’s easy to get buried under columnists, commentators, bloggers, and politicians who suggest the unemployed should “just get a job”, like they’re hanging from bushes and trees at the local parks, and we can simply go pluck the one we like best or the least bruised one at worst to pay our bills.   They’d have you believe the unemployed are lazy OR just not trying very hard to find a job OR look at certain types of jobs as beneath them.  (Meanwhile, they help Corporate America make the case for industry-wide welfare, which is totally different than lending a helping hand to workers.)

Andrew Sullivan’s series “The View From Your Recession” points out how unemployment is much more complicated right now.   He recently posted a lengthy missive by a third-year law student with no serious post-graduate job prospects anywhere in his or his peers’ futures.

I myself worked at the Massachusetts Office of the Attorney General for the past nine months and interviewed for a really exciting fellowship. I received a call from the AGO’s HR Director:  I was third in line for the position, but they were cutting the number they were hosting from three to one.  In four other positions I’ve interviewed for, I’ve received word that the position itself was canceled, or would not be filled at all this year.  There’s also a state-wide hiring freeze in Massachusetts, and a lot of established attorneys suddenly on the market after record layoffs in Boston law firms. . .

Without a job, I will not be able to afford malpractice insurance on my own and would not risk practicing law without it. I’ll have over $130K in debt from my law degree. Thankfully, I live in Massachusetts and can utilize MassHealth – anywhere else in the country, I would have to do without health insurance (I have no pre-existing conditions, but the quotes I’ve received are so high as to be ridiculous).  If I stay in the city, I do not know what I’d do for rent.  I’m 26 years old, and am frightened to death I will have to move back to Ohio and away from my gay community, and live with my parents.  With a law degree.  I feel like a chump sometimes.

It is odd to feel relief when reading the slices of life by other people who find themselves in similar circumstances.  There’s an unexpected camaraderie in recession pain right now.

Every day I read about the plight of people who are less fortunate and unemployed.  Every day I read about the plight of people who have several kids and were just laid off.  Every day I read about the plight of people who have serious illnesses and are unemployed and are probably going to lose their health insurance and their house and then what? Everyday, I’m still more concerned about them, than I am me, because I know I have access to the resources I need and little in the way of roots that could make a solution more difficult, but what about them?

I’ve typically avoided writing about my prolonged job hunt because I opted to leave a job and wasn’t fired, so my unemployment is of my own making.  But it increasingly feels wrong to not reach out to others who find themselves unemployed in this crappy economy.

When you’re bogged down by the drama in your own life, it can be difficult to remember we each have a unique pool of resources (and sometimes a government one) to pull through.   There’s also always opportunity in adversity, it just matters how you choose to view the situation.

And most importantly, you’re not alone.

What’s your window on the recession?  How is it affecting you? How can your online community support you? And what are you doing to look forward?

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News round up for singletons

There have been a lot of thought-provoking news bites lately that are relevant to young adults living single.  I’ve compiled a few for your consideration.

Singles Statistics

Which cities are home to the most singles, which might make those cities more likely spots to find a partner?

Rank Metro % Single
1 San Francisco, CA 44.7
2 Detroit, MI 44
3 New York, NY 39.8
4 Boston, MA 39.2
5 New Orleans, LA 39.1
6 Los Angeles, CA 37.7
7 Fort Lauderdale, FL 37.2
8 Las Vegas, NV 37
9 Miami, FL 36.9
10 Albuquerque, NM 36.8

But singleton stats alone don’t make for great dating opportunities.  Consider the ratio of males:females, as well as age breaks. (H/T Sullivan).  Women tend to be outnumbered by men in urban areas. . . which means we get to be pickier, since there are fewer women on the dating market.

Ezra Klein points explains the discrepancy and points out a flaw in the data that should shift the blue globes a bit.

The reason for this, basically, is that women marry younger. About 1/3rd of women are married by age 24. Only 1/5th of men are. That creates some imbalance. . . Single, in this definition, is counted as never married, divorced, or widowed, so you’re missing a lot of folks, particularly in the upper ranges, who are on the dating market but not caught in this data.

Since census data was used to crunch data for each of the above breaks, it bears reminding that the census doesn’t factor in homosexuality.  Cities with strong gay communities, like San Francisco, may skew the ratio of available men to women.  This caveat applies for the chart and graphic above.

The Warm and Fuzzies

Looking to make a connection with your date?  Make sure (s)he enjoys a warm beverage with your meal.  Science published the latest in interpersonal relationship influences this week.

In the first study, Williams and John A. Bargh, a psychology professor at Yale University, found that holding a hot cup of coffee leads people to judge a stranger to be a warmer person, in terms of such traits as generosity and kindness, compared with a group of people who held a cup of iced coffee.

Also of note, a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that a woman wearing red inclines men to spend more on a date.

Men said they would spend more money on a woman pictured in red, compared with the same woman wearing a blue shirt. . . On average, wearing red meant a more expensive night out, and in general, a higher rating of attractiveness.

Women appear to be immune to the same color skews.  I’m going to leave the matador/bull analogies to the readers.  As for me, I’m happy to report I wear red well.

Mood-Altering Benefits of Semen

Should a woman make it to the monogamous relationship stage, relying on birth control other than condoms, regular vaginal exposure to semen may have an anti-depressant effect.  The research soon to be published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior concludes:

Semen makes you happy. That’s the remarkable conclusion of a study comparing women whose partners wear condoms with those whose partners don’t.

The study, which is bound to provoke controversy, showed that the women who were directly exposed to semen were less depressed. The researchers think this is because mood-altering hormones in semen are absorbed through the vagina. They say they have ruled out other explanations.

On that note, my round up of (potential) relationship influencers ends.  Will geography matter more with that next job offer?  Will you reconsider what you wear on your next date?  Does “just coffee” now seem more appealing?

Til next time.

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Trojan's safe sex campaign

Trojan Condoms launched a Evolve America tour last year to encourage Americans to have safer sex since 65 million Americans have an incurable STD and teen pregnancy is on the rise.

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VOD: Social Networking

There are a ridiculous number of social networking sites.  Picking and choosing the best ones for you can seem daunting.  Here’s a Current TV animated video covering the “Social Networking Wars,”  reminding us that site popularity is a fickle beast.

H/T AJ

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BtVS: the push to go animated.

Here’s a clip from the animated Buffy the Vampire Slayer series that never made it to air.

As a cult favorite, fans would like to lobby the powers that be, to finally make the show happen in one form or another (TV, web, DVD, etc). At the moment, fans aren’t too organized, having captured just 852 of the 50,000 e-signatures sought to rally for this animated format.

I’d love a reincarnation of Buffy for a Season 9, since 8 is covered by comic books.  What about you?

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Right resume? Your job search is on!

image by SOCIALisBETTER

We recently touched upon the life coaching industry (Parts 1, 2, 3). Since Brazen Careerist focuses on professional development, I thought it might be useful exercise to visit a few people who guide the job search process.

If you’re like me, you’re skeptical about paying for someone to help you find a job.  But a trusted career advisor, or 3,  can make your transition from student to worker bee or from one industry to another less painful.

What can you expect from job search advisors?  According to Miriam Salpeter:

Typically, my clients work with me to jump-start a search – they need a resume and tips regarding how to get started. My goal is to “teach a client to fish.” In other words, I give job seekers key tools (a resume and cover letter) and then give them the resources they need to write their next cover letters and update their transformed resumes. I coach about how to look for a job and how to interview well.  This typically takes a few sessions at most.

Sure, you can buy lots of how-to books that proclaim to help you put your best foot forward.  But a resume writer can make it a lot easier, and Lauren Hasson offers 3 reasons to invest in one.

1. It’ll save you hours and hours and hours of time! As professionals who do this full-time, résumé writers have the skills and experience to knock out killer résumés in as little as two hours — which would take most people weeks to do right.

2. More importantly, they know what employers are looking for. To be perfectly honest, your résumé only has a few seconds to tell the employer why they should hire you. A résumé pro knows how to get your key selling points across quickly and clearly.

3. A professional can give you an objective look at your qualifications. Let’s face it: writing about yourself is not easy. And even though you know yourself pretty well, it’s almost impossible to be objective in this situation. You can really use someone who’s on your side, and who also knows the tricks of the trade.

As I’ve learned through personal experience, an outsider can often draw a better picture of you than you can.  Rarely are we the best judges of our won worth because we all have stumbling blocks and sensitive spots that sometimes shadow your true self.  Just like your friends and family might describe you differently than you would yourself, a resume writer might be better able to get the you the outside world sees.

Lauren shares

I see a lot of “do-it-yourself” résumés that inadvertently come off as either too humble or too boastful — and that’s only because we all have trouble being objective when we write about ourselves. You may not be able to see things — valuable, persuasive things! — that a highly trained outsider can quickly pick up on . . .

[A] client of mine had some trouble “accentuating the positive.” She had gone to a decent school, got an average GPA but had great grades in her major. She wanted to go into marketing but she thought the fact that she spent most of her summers working at a camp — rather than, say, a marketing firm — wouldn’t impress employers. She said to me, “Do I have any chance of getting noticed?”


Yes! But, like I told her, it’s all in how you present your qualifications. Here’s how I positioned her: She attended a reputable school, had great grades in a demanding major, and demonstrated her dependability and work ethic through consistent employment. Sounds better, doesn’t it? And it will probably attract more employers than the overly humble approach!

As with other forms of life coaching there are countless career advisers proclaiming to be your best option.  Much like with designer labels, sticker price isn’t necessarily a guarantee of quality.  So what should you be looking for in a resume and job search expert?

When you’re for someone to guide you through your quarterlife crisis or break with emotional eating, you’re probably looking for a coach that has struggled with the same issues.  But job hunting?  Look around you.  Instead, look for a coach that can demonstrate he or she knows the job market for the industries you’re interested in.

A veteran in the industry, Miriam comments

I believe that work experience as a head of a University career center (as in my case), recruiting experience, and human resources backgrounds may help qualify someone to offer advice regarding a resume and job hunt.

It is most important to ensure that a potential coach is current with trends for today’s market. Someone who recruited for years but doesn’t even have a linkedin profile may not be up-to-date on what is happening in the workplace today. (In my case, I maintain an advisory board of industry experts and constantly follow news regarding trends.) Evaluate if the coach is aware of a variety of job search and resume writing techniques. Ask questions. For example, if the coach doesn’t know about video resumes and can’t confidently explain why they are or are not a good choice for you, you should find another coach.

Miriam makes a great point. Have you ever met someone who proclaims to be an expert when it comes to a certain topic?  The more you talk to that person, you realize you know more about that topic than he does.  When you’re job hunting, you want to avoid that scenario as you seek advice.

As a relative newcomer to the field, Lauren is a:

a bona fide read-a-holic (I read all the college career advice books so my clients don’t have to!).

I also keep in regular touch with recruiters and HR professionals, so I can understand exactly what they’re looking for in candidates. And I’m constantly “talking shop” with other résumé writers to exchange ideas and best practices.

We’re all looking for a job we can be passionate about, so make sure you’re hiring a job search professional that is just as excited about their work.

And resume advisers shouldn’t be keeping all their tips under lock and key until they have your paypal payment.  My friends and I have signed up for free teleseminars on resume writing that are nothing more than informercials for what the host could do for you for $X hundred.  The barker will tease you with vague references to how she can help you, much like a politician, but won’t provide concrete examples.   It’s a waste of your time.

Instead, seek out their websites and read their blogs.  Miriam notes

I believe a blog is an ideal way to demonstrate expertise in a subject matter. Does the coach give advice that resonates with you? Does he or she blog once a month or several times a week? I believe that one indication of a coach’s qualifications is his or her ability to confidently and competently blog several times a week and dispense advice that seems on target for the client.

Remember the proof is in the pudding.  Miriam reminds readers to ask for “‘before’ and ‘after’ samples of resumes.” If you don’t like the work this consultant has done for others, chances are you aren’t going to be happy with the results on your own resume makeover.

Once you’re happy with your resume, you’ll want to share it with the world.  Head over to Blackbird Tees, home of the Resume Tee.  Pick the catchy slogan of your choice, upload your resume  and engage in some shameless self-promotion by literally wearing your resume on your back.

Until the end of September you can enjoy a 15% discount on your Blackbird Tees order using the code “brazen” at check out.

I’d like to thank our visiting experts.  Leave your questions in the comments, and I’ll be sure to have them follow up.

Miriam Salpeter is a Career Action Coach.  She helps “clients approach what can be a difficult situation (looking for a job) with confidence, clarity and know-how. Part of that involves writing a great resume, the other parts involve sharing information, tools and other resources to make sure the client is well prepared to be successful.”

The Résumé Girl, aka Lauren Hasson, helps college students and recent graduates all over the country land their dream job. If you’re setting out on your first big job or internship search, The Résumé Girl can not only write your résumé for you — she’ll also give you one-on-one interview coaching and tons of real-world advice.

Disclaimer: I have never been a paying client of either of today’s experts.

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More on Life Coaching

Last week I wrote about  the proliferation of life coaches available today.

Today, on the Huffington Post, there’s a follow up to my question by life coach Christine Hassler.

Instead of constant self-scrutiny, we all need to accept that there are going to be times in our lives when we need teachers and cheerleaders – but that doesn’t mean something is wrong with us. Hiring a coach is an investment in your personal growth. Any good coach or tutor has been coached by someone else and is now just passing along the learnings. We’re all in this together! If we can approach self-improvement and coaching as something that brings out our strengths rather than looking at it as the remedy for fixing what is broken, then maybe we can finally feel good enough – exactly as we are.

Life in Los Angeles

You can find an original piece I wrote on Life in Los Angeles over at Brazen Careerist today.  Here’s a teaser:

Los Angeles is perfect if you’re trying to define or redefine yourself intellectually, bodily, or socially. It’s a great place to get lost and find yourself, as long as you don’t get caught up in the hype. . . and you don’t mind the traffic.

Visit and add your thoughts about what makes Los Angeles home.

YouTube find: Lisa Nova as Affirmation Girl

Lisa Nova periodically uploads episodes featuring the life of Affirmation Girl, a women who is hell bent on embracing positive affirmations, despite the ongoing drama in her life. It’s R-rated YouTubery, so you need to have an YouTube account (making you age verified) to view.

Welcome: Affirmation Girl

Your Body is a Temple

In other parodies by Nova, enjoy Dumb Water

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